I've told both of the kids the first two years of college is on me. I've worked my tail off for all of their lives and they've seen it and both have a pretty damn good work ethic. My daughter has chosen remote learning for the rest of this year so she can work as much as possible and still carries honor roll grades. She gets a pretty long leash from me. My son, whom a few of you have met, also did well in school but not so much at CC. After a second partial semester of failure we agreed it wasn't working and he did what he really wanted to do and entered the full time work force. After a couple of different ideas he's settled into a millwright apprenticeship where he can work as much as he desires. And he is. I'm almost certain my daughter will wind up with at least a bachelor's degree, but not because I'm making her. She's just driven. A hard worker. They both are.
There is no one right path for them. You show them how to work and support them the best you can. I tell my GF after middle school I want to be the bumpers in the gutters at the bowling alley.
YMMV.
