We are at this tipping point too. My boys actually go to a private, country Lutheran school, but it’s expensive and although the education is great and faith based, the teachers who are unmarried women without children of their own, have a disconnect when it comes to young boys behavior. They haven’t actually stated that my youngest needs meds, but we have had several conferences regarding a 7yr olds ability to focus in a classroom setting. Bring him home and he completes tasks on his own, from start to finish. Tell him to sit still and you might as well try and rope a tornado.
My wife wants to homeschool our boys, and I want her to as well. So now it’s just figuring out how to afford her quitting her job to handle that.
My wife and I are both public school graduates, and we both would never send our kids to the local public schools. Minnesota has failed. Public schools have declining enrollment at a significant rate, the last several years around here, for a plethora of reasons.