Child discipline

[huskihl]

Jesus H......that's a big MFer[emoji15]

Yep. That's what I thought too . He wore a belt every day of his life....and knew how to remove it when I did wrong

 

[bigbadbob]

There is 6 boys in my family,, if someone would rat on us for something bad, dad would say ok witch on of you did that,, we never told, so he got his leather belt out and we all got it,, he would say I know I got the right one!!I think that used to make him very irate!! But we always stuck together!!
His belt had metal chauffeur tags on it,, that sucker hurt!!
BBB

 

[T.Roller]

I got the belt from my father. No warning. My mother found hot wheels track was very effective

 

[Red97]

Respect/fear worked well for me.

Think I only got swatted 3 times I can remember. The voice was enough to send me cowering. Still a damn loud man.

Now for my little one.. I gotta get him trained early. Just turned 1 Sunday. 3ft and 26lbs...

 

[stihl_head1982]

Yep. I'm in yellow.

Your dad was a big guy. I was always thankful my dad was a man of few words. If he told you -- you were getting a butt whooping -- you could take it to the bank!

 

[MarkEagleUSA]

But hell, who am I to talk, my damn German Shepherd barks orders at me. Though if I dare, I can muzzle her and throw her azz in a crate in the basement and it's all legal.

Wait... you mean I shouldn't have done that with my kids?

My dad passed when I was 7 and mom, an old-fashioned Italian woman, had a favorite saying: "I'll kill first and ask questions later". Scared the bejesus outta me. More effective, however, was her always telling me to not shame my fathers name in any way.

As a parent my philosophy was never use an instrument (spoon, belt, etc) but always an open hand and never on bare skin. I swatted their bottoms when warranted but overall they were very good kids once they got past the age of 3 or 4. As teenagers they both tested my patience but managed to survive and have become wonderful young adults.

As has been mentioned, a lot of today's problems are because of a lack of discipline in the home.

 

[huskihl]

I would have laughed my head off at a "Time Out" like they do now days. All that would have done was gave me time to think about my next adventure. When I knew I'd get a whooping, really made me think twice whether whatever kind of fun mischief I was getting in, was worth the consequences. A time out, would not give that a second thought to even break my stride or slow me down.

Time out....yep. Sounds like a participation award

 

[stihl saws]

I've had all my kids standing in the corner. That was their first option. Never used a belt or anything besides my hand as plan B.

 

[dall]

i dont have kids but they listen to me maddie my jack russell got in trouble a couple times and i gave her the belt once now if i say belt she will lay down . my mom used paddles and broom sticks on me until i would laugh at her thats when she used a old fiberglas fishing pole with the metal eyes . i grew up with 2 sisters so i believe in raising voice the first time then the hand the second time

 

[Dustin4185]

I can spank my daughter and it doesn't bother her one bit. If I scold my son, he is down for a day or two knowing he did wrong. I do the "chest to wall" with her. She has to lace her fingers behind her head, put her chest on a wall and take one big step back. It's like the corner but works anywhere. I tried push-ups with my son and he just got stronger and meaner! My daughter just does t give a s-word about getting in trouble.

 

[dieselfitter]

Probably one of the most memorable moments I had as a little duffer, was my Father was going to paddle me with a wooden spoon, it broke in two on the first whack. I started to laugh and just as I realized that I might be making a grave mistake...

When we were young, my older brother knew he was in for a beating when the old man would be home. In preparation, he put a magazine down his pants. While beating his ass, my dad realized my brother was laughing when he should've been crying. In the end, my brother's plan backfired... dad had a bad temper.

 

[T.Roller]

I believe every parent should discipline their child as they see fit, with in the law.

 

[Locust Cutter]

With Dad it was usually a belt, with Mom, it was the stealth hand out of nowhere... I was also was grounded more than once and a few of those times were comparable to living the existence of a Gregorian monk (possessionless). With my kids, wall squats are not unusual and the occasional spanking. I have made them, on occasion, place toys that I told them to pick up, multiple times, into a trash bag. Sometimes they've gotten them back, sometimes not. Once, I made my son put a few of his favorite toys that he couldn't manage to keep picked up into the fire pit outside and watch them burn... That got His undivided attention and it's not been an issue since.

Dad always said that He'd whoop me ten out of ten times in a fair fight and He didn't fight fair. I never cared to challenge that assertion. Eventually I'll tell mine the same.

Luckily it takes a lot to get me mad, BUT when I do, it seems to be easily recognized by all who I've encountered and the kids definitely know when I'm only going to ask once.

All, in all, they're pretty damn good, especially when I see some other friend's ***offspring*** and realize how truly well mannered and behaved my children are... Sometimes Parents need to get a fresh perspective too.

 

[pa-aaronq]

What are some of the most imaginative discipline techniques you've ever experienced or used? Not I got my ass beat till I couldn't sit but stuff that effected an immediate change.
I once hung a misbehaving child in the crook of a tree by her ankle. Not high, not for long and certainly not out of reach. But sure made her wide eyed. Someone once dumped a bucket of mop water over me when I was being unreasonable (I was like three). No more issues. Most of us probably don't remember all the beatings we had. But we sure remember the stuff that was out of the box.

I grew up with a very physical father that hit my brother and me whenever we looked at something wrong. We both grew up with very low self esteem and I was violent until I was in my late 20's. I contemplated suicide as a teenager but I didn't want my mom to find her headless son in the gunroom. My friend had a very energetic son that she did nothing but scold and beat him all the time. At age 12 he hung himself. As with any discipline there is immediate effects or long term effects. Im sorry if I offended anyone on this touchy subject but I wanted to share a few examples. Thanks

 

[P.M.P.]

I've had all my kids standing in the corner. That was their first option. Never used a belt or anything besides my hand as plan B.

I spent alot of time in the corner at Grandmas house. My little ones no where there corners areand I still remember mine.

 

[Motorhead]

Whatever you come up with to discipline a child,don't forget to come up with a way to show them that you love them also.

 

[Mastermind]

Whatever you come up with to discipline a child,don't forget to come up with a way to show them that you love them also.

Truth.

 

[Dustin4185]

Our pediatrician said a well behaved child is one that minds in public. A well disciplined child minds all the time. Mine are also pretty good, unless they don't get their outside time. If it is raining or we get home late and they can't play outside, run the dogs, or at least whittle, they are bears the rest of the night. I think my 8 year old would quit school now and just live as a homesteader if I would let him. He loves to garden, build things, kill game, and build fires. I would much rather him be that way then sitting in front of a video game!

 

[Mastermind]

I grew up with a very physical father that hit my brother and me whenever we looked at something wrong. We both grew up with very low self esteem and I was violent until I was in my late 20's. I contemplated suicide as a teenager but I didn't want my mom to find her headless son in the gunroom. My friend had a very energetic son that she did nothing but scold and beat him all the time. At age 12 he hung himself. As with any discipline there is immediate effects or long term effects. Im sorry if I offended anyone on this touchy subject but I wanted to share a few examples. Thanks

Thanks for sharing.

My dad was an abusive alcoholic. Thank God he split when I was young. My older brothers all ended up leaving home as soon as they could. I have no good memories of that man.

I just have one child, a red headed daughter. She was, and is as hard headed as they come.....but she was no problem as a kid. She got a lot of love, and spankings as needed. As a teen she always did what she said she was gonna do, and never told lies. Glenda and I miss her being little......

I don't have any good advice on how to raise a child, but I think they need love as well as spankings.

 

[T.Roller]

I agree