Good evening guys.
This is just an update on that ex's son (20yr old) stealing off his mother
It’s fugging hard when you know your stating the obvious to them and driving a wedge between the two of them, even though you know, it’s for the best outcome .
I called her tonight, she’s in the middle of him picking g his stuff up and moving outside , ( I guess his parasite days were up … his surrogate father /friend of the family was with there with him & her . She had another friend there that was cooking dinner.
The other day I explained many things to her, ie the scenarios.
As with all breakups , there are winners and losers . And occasionally it’s mutual !
You have to remember he’s is an adult and your his mother., you have two different relationships going on with him.
Anyway. I said .. if you wanna call and talk at anytime… I’m here!
I know it’s time they start to try and build the new friendship between them.
I say this because… teens hate there parents, because they going through adolescence. That’s when you know it’s time to start and build a new friendship.
But sadly some parents don’t know when it’s time to start and they carry on the parent thing for too long and then we end up where we are now
Btw ymmv as a male or female parent and also if your offspring are male/female etc or anything else .. there are too many variables to nail down anything that’s consistent.